So you’re looking to make a few new friends and you have no idea where to go. If you may be new to the area. You may not have needed two for a while. It’s a daunting question. We’re here to help give you some ideas to help you be successful and why others may not work as well.
The first scenario is if you’ve met someone on Sam and you know a little bit about them but aren’t quite sure if it’s going to work. A restaurant or bar that you’re comfortable with is the optimal choice. It provides you a social environment to become comfortable and focus on one another. You need to be able to establish a vibe and restaurants and bars allows you to do it. A bar also provides you an easy out if things don’t go to your liking.
Restaurants and bars work great when you’re meeting someone new. If you’re not meeting someone you know, it’s a roll of the dice. You can certainly do some research to improve your odds, but the fact is the person you may sit down next to may have no desire to make friends, maybe nothing like you and may cause more harm than good. Obviously, this is the worst case scenario and many people do make friends in bars.
Work varies by environment. As you climb the ranks, it becomes more and more difficult for this to be an optimal place. The writing will be on the wall as to if this is a good idea.
A great place for meeting new people is at your local gym. It provides a regular environment where everything doesn’t have to happen in one day. A relationship can be built over time and a can be done and in an environment where you both have an interest in a common element – exercise class, weight lifting, basketball, etc. You will at some point have to break the ice, but you have a good start to be successful!
Other classes, leagues, or repetitive environments, such as church, focusing on an interest are a great place to meet people as well. Like the gym - you don’t have to make friends all in one day. The goal is to be in an environment that you are comfortable with - around people with similar interests to yourself.
IMPORTANT – a common interest does not guarantee you are a perfect match! It’s something that provides for good vibes and something to talk about. It does not match you on the criteria that are necessarily important to you in the friends that you keep. For many it is a helpful recommendation, for others it may not be a realistic option.
When meeting at a bar, there is no common interest. The other person may or may not be looking to be social. All you can do is try. Break the ice. It may work. It may not. As I said at the beginning - it’s a daunting question. Being set up to succeed goes a long way and that’s what Sam is there for! Happy hunting!
Feb 15, 2019